I’m writing this being completely guilty of doing the opposite, so I’m putting this out there so I have to take action!
Do you tend to hide behind the camera?
Me too! Often, the camera I have with me as we’re out for the day is my phone as to be honest, I want to be present with him not lugging around camera gear to ensure that I get a perfect shot. The downside of this is that whilst some turn out great, many just use up memory and the closest I come to a beautiful image of us together is a wonky selfie snapped at the zoo!
You know the ones, odd angle, terrible lighting, slightly blurry as you’re using the fancy new iPhone that’s a bit too big to hold still and press the button at the same time? Good, glad that’s not just me!! In short, it’s not something I’d ever frame to put on my desk or hang on a wall.
I have serious gaps in our history together from a visual perspective as the days are whizzing past at breakneck speed and they add up into weeks…. I don’t want it to be months and I cannot let it be years!
We all answer “family” when asked what our priorities are, but we tend to not prioritise recording our joint history
Except one lady I was talking to a while back did. Her story is a little different as she has dementia running in her family. She told me that every year she gets a new photograph of that years’ milestone, including her with her family so that one day, should she too be afflicted she’ll be able to look through her “dementia book” and have the visual reminder of her life, loves and achievements. I think this is a lovely idea!
Make a family photography schedule
Being a photographer, having a child and talking to clients who have experienced devastating loss and now prioritise photography over other thing has made me much more conscious of capturing my own life. I don’t mean on social media. Who knows where these platforms will be in the future. We can all name a few that were all the rage and then vanished into the ether. I mean tangible photographs that can withstand the test of time.
I do worry that one day I won’t be here any more and if I keep avoiding being photographed he won’t have anything to look back to see me or us together. The sad thing is, I’m always behind the camera but for my son, I need to make sure I’m in front of it too!
I have a mission for this year and it’s to encourage us all to exist in photographs. You’ll see me using that tag on Instagram and it comes from a very genuine place – one day these images will be our childrens’ most precious and treasured possessions. We all know people who’ve lost a parent and they will back this up.
Let’s make a commitment to leave our children a wonderful legacy, visual proof of how loving and fun their family life is. Until then, we get to enjoy beautiful images in our homes that make us smile and our hearts sing every time we see them. It’s a win:win!
If you’ve been considering a family photoshoot but feeling awkward is holding you back, then this blog should help reassure you that it’s not as uncomfortable as you might fear. Honest!